How Do I Make My Ex Boyfriend Want Me Back? The Second Chance At Love Series, Part One

Published: 15th August 2009
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Do you feel like everything you do to try to win your ex back just pushes him further away? Are your friends sick of hearing "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back" from you day-in and day-out? Heck, are you sick of hearing yourself ask it? If this sounds like you, then guess what -- you're not getting any closer to getting your ex boyfriend back. In this series, you're going to learn what to do -- and more importantly, what not to do -- to fix your broken relationship and get back together.

Pressure Doesn't Work
Obviously you mean business, or you wouldn't be reading this. You're serious about saving or fixing your relationship. But if you're feeling overly anxious about it, you're probably acting in the wrong way -- and your ex is pulling farther and farther away from you. And no's natural human nature for people to resist this kind of pressure. Think about how you reacted last time you felt pressured to do something. Did you feel like you just wanted to get away from the situation? Did you feel angry, or frustrated? Pressuring your ex is completely pointless, and it will only make matters worse.

Constant Contact Doesn't Work
You miss your ex boyfriend, and of course you want to talk to him. More importantly, you want him to want to talk to you. Sure, you want to stay on his radar -- but are you calling your ex too much, constantly writing him e-mails or text messaging him? Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If you're leaving him messages every day, sending him texts...stop! I mean it. Just stop. Right now. (Seriously...put the phone down and keep reading.)

Constantly contacting your ex boyfriend is an easy way to make him think "stalker" -- not want to get back together with you. Back away from the Blackberry, and try this strategy instead.

Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Strategy #1: Disconnect
Before you freak out, understand this -- I don't mean cut him out of your life forever, or start treating him meanly. Just start by breaking contact off for a while and doing your own thing. While there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, you can focus on improving your own personal life, rather than focusing 24/7 on your relationship issue. Yes, it's going to be a challenge, and you'll need discipline to keep you from returning to your old ways. But there's a huge benefit to this strategy that makes the challenge worth it.

Make Him Wonder About You
See, by not contacting him for while, your ex is going to experience a change in how he feels about you, since you aren't actively pursuing him. You may become kind of mysterious to him, because he isn't sure what you're doing or feeling. Can you see how this actually works in your favor? Now your ex is in a position to actually miss you -- something that's impossible when you're smothering him.

Let Him Remember
The key to this strategy and to repairing a break up is to work with human nature -- not against it. Just keep yourself grounded and avoid smothering him. Do whatever you need to do (within reason, of course) to keep your fingers off the keypad. Make yourself appear mysterious and he'll have the time and space to remember why he loved you in the first place. Play hard to get (don't over do it) and let him make the first move, and you will come out on top.

Still asking "How do I make my ex boyfriend want me back?"  Stay tuned for more strategies, tips and advice in this series. Don't want to wait? Want to know exactly what to do and what to say to get your ex back fast? Watch this video to get a proven strategy you can use right now to prevent or fix a break up:

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